Silent scream Neda Arneric: “You do not disturb me, you need me!”
After the death of the great actress Neda Arneric, who has struggled with depression in recent years, some of the lesser-known details of her life, as it usually does when someone dies, have come to light.
So today we are witnessing a very sad statement made by Neda Arneric in an interview with Gloria three months ago:
People stopped calling me while I was in the hospital so they wouldn’t bother me. When I came from the hospital, they still didn’t answer. I needed to turn a large number of phones and tell everyone ‘You don’t disturb me, you need me’, and I turned only a few numbers and heard the same story: ‘Your phone was switched off, we couldn’t get you’.
After the death of the great actress Neda Arneric, who has struggled with depression in recent years, some lesser known details from her life have “emerged”
Of course they couldn’t, because I was in the hospital for two and a half months, and fortunately, the phone was banned. Now, here I am, eager to get back into the life of theater, film and television. I know I have something to offer, Ned said in an interview.
This is a cry for help, for the closeness of friends who, after the death of a difficult-to-bear husband, could be a support, a shoulder, a hug, or just a quiet presence so that she would not feel lonely in the pain and depression that allegedly attempted suicide twice .
Nedina’s death is like a scream that, unfortunately, fewer and fewer people can hear.
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For the first time, she “screamed” for help falling off the terrace under never-clear-cut circumstances. The second time, much louder, when she took her medication. For the third time, perhaps the loudest, just when she made this statement in which she said:
You don’t bother me, I need you.
She was not “loud enough” for all those people whose ears were incapable of hearing the specific sounds of depression, of remembering, of fighting with themselves, of calling for help.
What specifically does a man struggling with depression have to say? Do you have to howl to hear it? What are some words that would be compelling enough? To whom convincing? What should it look like to be believed, called for help, helped not to raise your hand, be with him?
There are many people around us who “scream” their own sadness and depression every day, but few believe it, because here about depression, its causes, consequences, tips on how to recognize it in others, we approach others … talk a little. Except when someone takes their own life.
Depression is treated by awareness because only in this way will we not live in the delusion that ‘successful or young or beautiful or rich or family man or mother or childbirth or …’ have no reason to be depressed
Even then, there is much more amazement than engagement to bring the situation to an alarming level.
We need to break the taboos.
To treat a shabby environment with shabby assumptions.
Talk in public, often, loudly, without shame, about your sorrows, struggles, falls. Too much luck is enough. Frca from every photo-mounted photo, from photo-mounted homes, from photo-mounted smiling faces.
We are not ready to show our noses without narrowing and filters, so how can we talk about depression? To whom should we admit it? Whose consciousness do we raise?
It takes many decades, perhaps centuries, to realize that depression has taken a beating and no intention to stop in these circumstances. It cannot be cured by filters and processing. Neither can the likes.
How can we recognize that someone in our vicinity is contemplating suicide?
It is treated by the willingness of the system and society and the individual to deal with it. No condemnation. Without an appointment for eight weeks at the Health Center, a blank talk and a fast-paced print of a handful of medicines that get arrhythmia or slow-motion reflexes for the first day.
She is being treated by the free availability of psychotherapists to help depressed people “get out of the tunnel.”
She is treated with compassion. Willingness to hear, to understand, to help, to be with a depressed person.
She is treated with awareness because only in this way will we not live in the delusion that “successful or young, or beautiful, or rich, or family man, or mother, or maternity, or …” have no reason to be depressed.
Depression does not choose.
Although Neda once asked a reporter “what would you like a good fairy to fulfill?”, She said:
I would ask her to make me less sensitive.